Jurgen Habermas, a great contemporary thinker, says that the bond between people, bindungenergien in his native German, is the strongest force between people.
For Habermas these bonds explain how our language and culture are formed. A completely non-mystical explanation. If we are forced to do something through direct violence through subtle manipulation we may do it, but it is less likely to enter the culture than the influence of our loved ones. Our commitments are made by choice in honour of a loved ones and their actions.
Those acts of love are all around us but they don’t make it into the history books and Netflix series.
I started to ask people to go to the part of their being that was formed by experiences of unconditional love. Except for one or two who can’t find any experiences of unconditional love, everyone manages to find their divine mind. By agreement
How?
Grieving Child Meditation
Sit in a comfortable position. Allow your body to breathe simply by letting the stomach and diaphragm loosen.
Feel as if your loved ones are connected to you at the heart even if they are far away or gone a long time. We hold the bond, the binding energy as if it were beyond space and time.
Tune into what fills the space above your folded arms. Most people find the Unihipili really fast.
Watch the breath fill the vacuum that is created by dropping the tummy. I like to imagine gills opening and closing on my lower torso.